This was sent me by Dr Stuart Lorimer, who works at Charing Cross, and I’ve posted it here because it is a useful counter to the myths that are always doing the rounds about Gender Identity Clinics, usually promoted by people who have never been there. I’ve been there, and this is how it is.
WLMHT GENDER IDENTITY CLINIC (GIC) MYTHS
The WLMHT (“Charing Cross”) Gender Identity Clinic has existed in one form or another since the early 1960s, and clinical practice is constantly evolving. It is perhaps inevitable that, in that time, a number of false beliefs and misconceptions have arisen.
Not all these beliefs are “myths” in the sense of having always been untrue – some stem from the way the GIC operated in the past, or the approaches of previous clinicians – but all are outdated, and unreflective of current treatment protocol.
The following, then, are examples of commonly held beliefs about the WLMHT GIC which are untrue:
You have to wear a skirt to the GIC
Perhaps the most widely cited misconception, this is not the case. As part of the Real Life Experience (RLE), male-to-female transitioners are expected to present themselves in female role 100% of the time, and sometimes it is relevant to discuss this in clinic appointments. However, the range of feminine apparel is, obviously, wide and varied, and cannot simply be reduced to “wear a skirt”.
A less common variant holds that female-to-male transitioners must wear a suit and tie to be taken seriously at the GIC. This too is without basis.
You have to be living “in role”
Not the case. We see people who experience gender related distress; some are pre- transition, some do not undergo transition at all. All are valid referrals to our service.
You have to want surgery
Not at all. Not everyone needs or wants gender related surgery.
You have to be suicidal
On the contrary, it is important that those undergoing transition be stable, physically and psychologically. It is not unusual for us to see people who have, as a result of their gender distress, been depressed – sometimes to the point of suicidality – but we would hope that, as transition progresses, this gradually improves.
You have to be heterosexual
We have heard health professionals say this of the clinic, but it is patently ridiculous. It would be grossly unethical of us to insist on heterosexuality in our patients.
You can’t admit to doubt
Transition is, for many, a major life change and it would be unusual to have no doubts whatsoever. You should feel comfortable discussing feelings of doubt with your clinicians.
You have to give a standard trans narrative
As the UK’ s largest gender clinic, we see a huge diversity of people, and neither wish nor expect you to tailor your own experiences to a set of clichés. Just be honest.
The GIC will start you at the beginning again
This was our practice in decades past. In the last decade or so, it has been standard practice to acknowledge previous time spent in the preferred gender role. Typically, we “back date” the start of transition to the start of living in role full time as well as making an official name change or equivalent.
The GIC will stop your hormones
No. Our concern is that you take hormones safely. We routinely carry out blood tests at the first appointment, and may advise accordingly, but we generally do not ask people to stop hormones on which they are established.
The GIC will penalise you for having gone private/self-medicated
Obviously, we cannot approve of self-medication as it can be dangerous and often leads to a poorer result than that gained under medical supervision. However, we recognise that it is a modern reality, though, and do not penalise you for it. The same is true of previous contact with private practitioners.
It will take forever
Within the limits of available NHS resources, we aim to provide a timely and efficient service.
They deliberately play Good Cop/Bad Cop
Different clinicians have different approaches, and will form different therapeutic relationships with their patients. Choice of clinician is determined by availability of appointment slots, not by any sort of organised Good/Bad Clinician policy.
November 2010
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That all looks very fair to me – but I’m only me. Life can be tricky enough when one is fortunate enough to be born into more or less the right shape. Many years ago I briefly taught [in different places and at different times] a couple of pupils with gender identity issues and I’m learning so much from you. “Sympathy” and caring can go a long way but information is also key.
What a useful post, Dru. Myths can take on a life of their own, particularly in an already complicated field, and often only add to the problem. Well done for myth-busting!
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About the wearing a skirt “myth”. I do know one (now) fully transitioned young woman who was briefly held back from gender confirmation surgery because the psych. asked for second opinion held that her always wearing jeans showed a lack of commitment. Not that this situation lasted long!
As you probably know, Lesley, the internet forums have no shortage of people criticising Charing Cross on them, often citing things that happened a long time ago, or happened to someone else. In at least some of those cases, the people involved come across as having major unacknowledged issues beyond those cited.
Not knowing the person you mention, I can’t comment on how reliable her version of things is; I can only repeat that the ‘mythbusting’ list chimes with my own experience. I did encounter one of the ‘old guard’ a couple of times, and was a little upset and underwhelmed by his approach. But he is retired now.
Are you referring to Dr. Montgomery by any chance, Dru?
Not Dr Montgomery, Chloe. I never encountered him.
I can confirm that they don’t operate a “must wear skirt” policy. I completed my journey some years back now and didn’t wear a skirt to any appointment. After all, it’s not about the clothes we want to wear but personality/body.
Thanks so much for this myth busting array of information, as someone less than calmly waiting for my first appointments to arrive, it is a weight off my shoulders on several counts. I reguarly speak with people successfuly transitioned by Charring Cross and who are pleased with the results – I cannot wait, and look forward to the rest of my trans life
Hurrah! Result. Good luck, and enjoy the ride, Elizabeth!
I have a question.
I am FTM transexual and I will have my second appointment soon at the GIC.
I would like to change my name. I am not on testosterone yet. What if I won’t be allowed to go through the process after I change my name?
I know that clinic prefers people to change their name before they will prescribe hormones, at least this is what I read.
I would be grateful for any answers.
Marcin
Hi, M
It used to be the case that you had to formally transition before hormones would be prescribed. I’ve posted up the care pathway that was sent to me in 2003, as a separate page on this section; though I expect that you already have one from the clinic you’re attending. As I say at the top of that page, it is for historical interest, and shouldn’t be taken as current.
I can’t give you a hard and fast answer, really. Everyone’s case is unique. But I might suggest that you don’t need permission from a GIC to transition, or to take hormones. I see them as facilitators, advisers, and of course gatekeepers- they are able to offer help, and access to services which it might be difficult or expensive to obtain otherwise. But ultimately, your transition is your own business, and you should do only things that you are comfortable with, and in your own time.
Sorry, I’m trying to be helpful. Feeling at all reassured?
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Its taken me three years to reach my third app., to charing cross and I am still not on hormone treatment. It looks unlikely that I will ever go on treatment. The reason being that because of my age there is a greater risk of blood clots. I’d like to know if I can ask for breast augmentation as my right. I’m due at charing cross on 20th sept and would like to carry some ammunition with me. Brianna.
I’m pretty sure that BA is discretionary and dependent on need, Brianna. The GIC *could* recommend it, but it would be your PCT who would fund it. Unless you were to do it privately, of course. This advice is my own opinion; I’ve relayed your question to the TransBristol group, to see if anyone has further opinions to offer.
Thanks for the help Dru… I’m really to the point of tearing my hair out… Nobody at charing cross gic will commit to an answer… My Psychologist seems to be of the opinion that it would be offered me… After all this time I would have thought something would have happened… Brianna.